Sunday 28 October 2018

10 ways to cope with depression.

Have you ever woken up in the morning and lied in bed way past your set time because you didn't know why or how to get up? With that empty pit invading your insides? 
Do you often find your mind wandering off to lands of negative emotions such as feeling worthless, confused, anxious for everything? But still you couldn't put a finger on why were you so worried when apparently there was no elephant in the room. And you just sit there and cry. just feeling sad and scared but you don't know why. 
And you search around for help but you know that the logical minds wouldn't understand this 'illogical' crying. 

Then, there is nothing wrong with you. You are very much sane. What you are going through in reality, is a very common mental health issue: Depression.
Depression leads to low moods and aversion to life in general. It brings forth strong feelings of sadness, loneliness, fear, and anxiousness etc. 

The first step towards solving a problem is to identify it. Now that you have done that, let's move on to the next big step. COPING WITH DEPRESSION. Here I am listing some ways I have used to constantly uplift me from shadows of depression.

1. Rest and Sleep:

It is very common to over-worry about everything when depressed. And not be able to appreciate ourselves. So, make it a compulsory point to take some time out to just rest. Make you bed with clean sheets and fluffy pillows. Buy some cute, soft cushions for your bed or to snuggle with if you can. Pamper yourself. Take a hot bath, go to a spa or have a home spa day. Play your favorite games and watch good TV. And just Rest.
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2. Support Network:

Having a support network around me made dealing with depression much easier. Whether you think you are a loner or a social bomb, you need a support system. People who understand what you are going through. A community where you can share your feelings openly without the fear of judgement. It could be family, friends, relatives or just a colleague who you feel comfortable enough to trust with something so intimate as depression. Or else it could be an online forum where people with similar problems or interests come together to talk.
Which brings us to another important point for building up strong networks.

3. Volunteer:

GIVING. We all need to feel a sense of purpose and fulfillment that our lives mattered. No you don't need to be a millionaire philanthropist to feel like you are helping and giving back. Just spare an hour or two, one or two times a week. Maybe during weekend. You can do more if you can. And find something you really feel about from your heart. Maybe you had gone through a bad friendship and want to be there as a friend for others. You could join an elderly care or child care organization as a volunteer and be the friend they never had.

4. Educate Yourself:

You must be aware. Aware of what you're going through. Educate yourself about depression. The what, why and how of it. Read up on it. Sift through motivating videos. Here's one:

 5. Find outlets for Creative Expression:

Regardless of whether you're a creative person or not, doing something novel is very therapeutic. Take out that canvas and brush and get painting. Or maybe you love food and would like to experiment with recipes. Also, you could make cards, hand-made baskets, and other crafts to decorate your desk or your entire home. You could also give it away as a gift to a children's organization/school.

 6. Exercise:

Exercise is a great way to get the endorphins flowing. Endorphins are chemical substances that reduces your perception of pain. It also increases positive feelings in your body. Moreover, exercise is a great habit to keep you busy. Bonus: you'll be toned before you know it.


  7. Eating:

Since we are exercising, why not combine that with taking out time every week or every day to do healthy meal prep. There are very tasty healthy recipes all over the internet that are very easy to follow as well. You could do a quick Pinterest search or watch a YouTube video. Also, meal prep and cooking is very therapeutic.

8. Gratitude Journal:

Writing a journal helps clear up your mind. It gives a sequence and meaning to your thoughts. Especially if you write a gratitude journal. Gratitude for all the great things in your life and for people you appreciate increases abundance in your life. Find a quiet time and place to sit down with a glass of juice or a piece of fruit and just give thanks for all the blessings that we take for granted. It will shift your perspective from negative to positive.

9. Music:

Listening to uplifting music changes brain chemistry for good. Good music soothes your mind and body. Just browse great music and start listening. You might come across a track that will forever find a place on your playlist.

10. Nature:

Nature is calming and re-freshening. Try getting up in the early hours of morning and taking a walk in a park or a garden. If you have a small garden or plants in your home, have breakfast sitting in nature. And just watch- the sunrise up properly, the birds coming out to chirp. Praying in the quiet of early morning gives you an energy boost for the entire day.



 

Friday 26 October 2018

Let's talk about Depression..

As a part of life people face various struggles at certain points in their life. Such as loss of a beloved relationship, friendship, death of a close relative or confidant, failing at your dream job/business etc.

It is normal to feel sad, depressed, anxious or scared when you are stuck in a rut. But for a normal, healthy person life doesn't end here. Sun does shine again. The phases of depression and sadness lift. Joy is felt once again into their lives.

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But it's world apart for a person suffering from depression as a disease. It could be:
  • clinical depression- which is treatable
  • major depression- which may be one of the depression disorders and more complex to treat.
Depression acts as a resistance in the normal functioning of a human body. It takes a toll on mood, thinking, feelings, eating and just day-to-day activities.

So, how do you figure that it's depression?

Symptoms of depression:

Some of the prominent symptoms of depression include:
  • feeling constantly blue and hopeless
  • persistent cover of fatigue and tiredness
  • unable to sleep or overdose of sleep
  • sudden bursts of crying usually without an apparent reason
  • anger, irritability, and hatred or strong negative emotions
  • weight and appetite gain or loss
  • lack of interest in activities which once made you overjoyed
  • a deep feeling of emptiness
  • strong feelings of guilt, helplessness, fear and of just being a loser at life.
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For starters, it is not something that just 'goes away' or something to just 'deal with until'.
It is a recognized mental health disorder which is medically and otherwise treatable as well.

It certainly is not something to be ashamed of. In the world in general and in certain societies like Asian countries in particular, consulting a mental health doctor is seen as downright humiliating and the patient,who needs nothing more than unconditional support, is met with mockery, ridicule and embarrassment.

How to deal with embarrassment

As someone who has been suffering from depression for quite sometime, I know the pressure of not sharing your struggles. Share what you're feeling with someone who cares. Speaking up has helped me immensely. The first move towards healing is to face the fear, feel it and still muster up all your strength to share and speak up.

All the power to you in fighting and being a warrior against depression.